Maryland - October 20, 2010 - On
assignment in Toulouse, France, I
received the disconcerting message that one of my childhood friend,
Carlos Taylor, was no longer with us. His lifeless body was found in his
car after he had been missing for two days in Managua, the capital city
of Nicaragua.
Big Eyes, as we fondly called him, was
funny, very talented and smart, but he was also very naďve. Big Eyes had
a heart made of gold. He was always willing to help anyone in need.
In the 1980’s we migrated to the United
States where we met with other childhood friends in search of better
opportunities. One of the first things we did upon arrival in the United
States was to enroll in school. Big Eyes graduated from Bethesda Chevy
High School in Bethesda, Maryland just a few minutes from Rosemary Hills
apartments where he lived with his older brother Poyoy aka Winston
Taylor.
We juggled work and school to help with our
personal needs. After school, most of us would go to part-time jobs,
arriving back home past midnight to hit the books and complete homework
for the next day. After graduating from high school, most of us did not
have the opportunity to go to college, but God had given us enough
knowledge to persevere. We worked hard until we were able to land the
jobs of our lives. For Big eyes it was the restaurant business that he
was most interested in. He loved the kitchen. On weekends, we would
hookup and cook up a storm while playing casino. I vividly remember one
time the guys asked for Johnny cakes. Well Big Eyes and I knew exactly
how to make them; we had made them before. To our surprised this batch
of Johnny cakes came out of the oven nice and soft but they turned solid
as rock when they cooled. Big Eyes and I tried to figure out what had
gone wrong. We found out as soon as we removed the grocery bags from the
table. We realized the lard was still in the bag. You figure out the
rest. It was the laugh of the day. Nothing could break the Johnny cakes,
and I mean nothing, no electric saw, no laser beam. We ended up donating
the bricks to the construction crew.
Big eyes worked several jobs: cleaning,
retail and fast food. He landed the job of his life when he was promoted
from fry cook at Popeye’s to restaurant manager. He was given his own
store to manage where he employed many of his countrymen who needed a
start upon arrival in the U.S. He also trained many of the managers who
are now managing Popeye’s restaurants in Maryland and Washington, D.C.
It makes me proud to see that he was able to pass on his knowledge to
others who are now benefiting from it.
As fry cook at Popeye’s, Big Eyes made sure
he cooked an extra batch of chicken and nuggets because he knew we would
be waiting for him at the entrance of Rosemary Hills especially on the
weekends when the boys would be socializing and having a few beers up by
the trash bin. Many of you will know what I am talking about. There were
times when cooking was not an issue because we knew that each of us
would be receiving a package from Big Eyes with enough chicken and side
orders. Those were memorable moments to us because whenever we met, we
reminisced and laughed about them.
After a few years managing his shop, Big
Eyes decided to move to Florida and then back to Nicaragua. Before
moving back to Nicaragua, those of us who considered Big Eyes a dear
friend advised him to be the first to open a Popeye’s in Nicaragua
because he knew the work well. We advised him to put forth the idea to
the owners of the store he managed, but Big Eyes had other plans. He had
enough of the restaurant business and wanted to start something of his
own, and he did.
Big Eyes was also a good DJ. Back in the
80’s, his brother Titus had one of the biggest street radio cassette
players with inputs for microphones and turntables. Big Eyes and I would
plug in the turntable and sing to versions of the hottest reggae songs
at that time. After many recordings, we came up with a hit. We did that
song so well that Big Eyes took the cassette and never gave me a copy
(smile). Every time I talked to Big Eyes he promised to give me a copy
of the song, but he never did. The title of that song is “Bongo Natty”:
Bongo natty trod a lonely road, bongo natty met a policeman, are lines
of the song. The chorus was just a simple repetition of the following:
Ta ty ta ty ty ty ty (repeat) when it came to the chorus we changed it
around to say” Ta ty ta ty ty ty ty, Ta ty ta ty ty Titus, the alias of
his brother. The last time I spoke to Big Eyes was in August. He was on
his way back to Nicaragua. We talked and we laughed about the song
again. Sadly we never knew it would be the last conversation between us.
I am very saddened to know that our friend
is no longer with us. He never harmed anyone in anyway. He was easy
going and made friends very easily … that is just the way he was. He
left us many fun memories to laugh about for the rest of our lives.
We are hurting because we lost a true
friend. My friend you are gone but trust me you will never be forgotten.
Memorable moments:
The best
one I always remember is at a party at the Anglican hall off 183rd and
7th Ave, he was sitting next to me while Mark was playing the music and
this song came on and he started singing it to me, and I told him that
he can't sing, so he told me never mind that, just remember every time
you hear this song that I dedicate it to you, and he kept on signing
it. I don't know the name of the song, but it says "Oh sweet darling,
what did I do to deserve you, what did I say to make your angel eyes
turn my way, If I only had the world, I'd give it all to you baby".
Yolanda Spencer